Friday, December 27, 2024

Stability

As 2024 draws to a close I am curious about 2025.  There is much uncertainty politically which may or may not affect the work that I do.

In the past, the holiday season was an escape from work, but lately I find it long and drawn out and not as upbeat and fulfilling as it used to be.  I find the days long and I long to be travelling or at least doing something more fulfilling than watching youtube and random movies.  

I am so glad that Cheryl and I were able to snag a cheap trip to Cuba in February to escape the monotony that our world sometimes entails.  I love our routines, but I am struggling to find things that interest me.  I have a good routine that involves roughly an hour at the gym, an hour reading and an hour playing music which helps contain me, but I still feel like there is something I am missing.  My kids are on their own journey, my friends are on their own paths and Cheryl is thriving in her new environment.  I have spent 30 years sacrificing for others and struggle to figure myself out at this stage of my life.  I love my life and I love my family.  I think I just want to travel more and explore, but that means slogging it out for the next 5 years so that I can fund those adventures.  

2024 was an ok year.  Better than some of the more recent years.   I feel like I am heading toward a goal, but not exactly sure what that goal is, but things seem to be working out ok.  Financially, emotionally, and physically, I feel stable at this point in my life.   

Thursday, December 12, 2024

'Tis the season

For some people December is the most wonderful time of the year, or so the song states.  But that is not the case for everyone.  With Andrew's birthday being exactly 2 weeks before Christmas, it has become impossible to get into the Christmas spirit.  Which is tough as it is the time of year that everyone wants to socialize and catch up and have large gatherings to celebrate.  I'm just not there.  I have come very introverted over the last couple of years, and do not enjoy large gatherings at the best of times, let alone at this time of the year.  

We are attending more social events in December than we have in the past few months combined.  And everyone expects me to be joyful and upbeat and thankful and that is very difficult.  The thing with the holiday season is that it is a constant reminder of all of the family Christmas' of the past and all of Andrew's birthday and it triggers all of the grief that exists in me.  


Embrace the inevitable adversity

This is a quote that I read a while back from Peter Rukavina and I love the the simplicity and succinctness of the four words.  Adversity is...